Friday, May 8, 2009

New header...  

If you read the Malone Family blog on a reader, be sure and stop by to see the new header. You can take a look here...

Please Pray  

Silas Loux (Derek & Renee's son) was rushed to the hospital yesterday with very serious pneumonia and possible other problems. He is in isolation and will be in the hospital for at least several days.

Please pray for his healing and for Derek & Renee as they juggle everything they do while he's in the hospital.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

High Fives, Diarrhea and Extra Thumbs...  

High Fives
We had DAY TWO of no hugs/kisses at church. Only high-fives. Micah is really getting into it. He gives one high five, then grabs the hand of the person and gives about 50 real fast in a row. He didn't try to hug anyone last night as far as I know. He's a smart little character. Matthew (who never really tried to hug people so much anyway) doesn't really get into the high five thing. He's kind of like Eli in that respect. He likes people but he isn't very free with his affection.

Diarrhea ****WARNING**** Not for the faint of heart! You might want to skip this paragraph!
I opened the boys bedroom door this morning at 6:45 to get them up to take them downstairs for breakfast. Then it hit me. Actually, just before the door opened, I got this sinking feeling (in my nose). Once the door was open, there was no doubt. I first went to Matthew's bed. He was fine. Sitting up, bouncing and rocking and giggling when he saw me. Up went his arms for me to pick him up. But I didn't at that moment. I went on the Eli's bed. Fast asleep and I saw no problems. Then on to Micah's bed. He was still asleep. Curled up in the corner of the bed, no blankets, and at the foot of the bed. I quickly realized that he was in the very corner because it was literally the only spot that didn't have poop on it. It was all over his pillow, all in his hair (oy vay) and on every blanket and that's probably all you want to know. Of course Blake was still in the shower, but I knocked (banged) on the bathroom door and told him to get his towel and get out of the bathroom. He did and I got another towel and just wrapped Micah up like a burrito so I wouldn't get it all over me and took him to the bath tub. Gave him the grossest bath I've ever experienced. He pointed to his hair and wanted it washed and all the other places where it went. Thankfully, he didn't play in it this time. It was just squished all over him. Got him out and then wrapped up everything in the bed and put it in the washer. Ugh. What a way to start the day!!!! We think we've narrowed it down to PIZZA as the suspect food product that he cannot handle. So goodbye pizza for him!!!
****END of Grossness****

Extra Thumbs
Sunday, we were sitting with the boys when I was finished with my portion of the service I lead. They both did so well! I was holding Micah in my lap and he held my hands in just the wrap around him position that he wanted. Pretty cute. Well, Mary was holding Matthew and he decided he wanted to hold my hand too so I let him hold one and he put both hands up for me to take him (which I couldn't). BUT...Micah started staring at Matthew's hands. Then he looked at his hand that has the extra thumb and back to Matthew's hands and back to his. In that moment, he realized that the extra thumb was not normal. He was ashamed and embarrassed by it and he hid his hand so I couldn't see it. I wanted him to know that it was okay so I forced his hand out from his other and held it, but he would not allow it. He wouldn't let me touch it. Finally, he covered his forehead and eyes with his forearm and hid his face too. Ugh. I was so sad for him. That poor little guy. He's so tender and so fragile. Needless to say I've loved on him extra hard because of the incident and reminded him over and over that he is a good boy. He just beams. I've been kissing on his extra thumb and trying to make him feel okay about it. The doc said he wanted to take it off. I didn't really agree. I thought is was no big deal. I was wrong. It's coming off.

Eli's Tube
As I said in an earlier post, Eli's g-tube (mickey) can come out. We called the doctor that put it in and let her know that the specialist that ordered said it could come out. She told us that we could bring him in and take care of it, but it would be better if we just did it at home. Okay... Right... YIKES! She told us how to do it and gave us the procedure to take care of the wound afterward and what to do if something goes wrong. So...Monday night, we're pulling it. Maybe I can find something else to do. :-) Ewwwww! Just kidding. We'll just do what she said and try not to throw up. :-)

The other treasures...
Our other kids have made the transition so well so far. They have really loved their new brothers in extravagant ways. What a blessing they are to us and to Matthew and Micah. Thank You, God.

Our church has also been a HUGE blessing to our family. I can't begin to describe it in words.

And of course, my beautiful bride has been an amazing mommy to all seven of our treasures. She is the love of my life and the owner of every part of my heart.

Blessed be the Name of the Lord!

Monday, May 4, 2009

Our Latest Video...  

Our first video since my parents have been home:


Sunday, May 3, 2009

Testing 1...2...3...  

Our schedule was different today for church.  For one thing, I have fed the boys their breakfast and gotten them dressed every day since we came home.  Today, we decided that Matthew & Micah would not go to the nursery at all but would stay with us the whole time and that we would not be giving hugs to every living person...only high fives.  So Mary decided that she would get them their breakfast and get a later start to church than me.  Ummm...also we moved them to a different room last night. 
Micah doesn't deal with change the same may normal mortals do.  So we hit him with all that change in 12 hours time.  He hasn't done too well with it today.  There has been LOTS of correction and scolding today.  I hate for every word to come out of my mouth to be NO.  (I always back it up with "Papa loves Micah" and he hugs and kisses me, but it still wears me out). 

Mary has had to be on him ALL DAY.  Totally our fault, but now that we're in it, we can't let him tip the scales to his side and get away with the things that he knows are not okay.  Hitting, spitting, etc...

So why did we pull them out of nursery/sunday school/childcare?  We originally decided that it would be best to keep them out for at least a month or MORE so they could totally attach to us and prefer us over anyone else.  For some reason, the second week we were home, we thought it would be okay to go ahead and put them in classes here at church.  We realized on Friday that that was not in their (or our) best interest so we are reversing that.  It'll be a bit difficult on them and us to make the change but it's what we need to do.

We have also decided that Micah must NOT go around hugging and kissing everyone that comes near him.  We're limiting him to high fives only for non-immediate family.  We need to be SURE that they know that we are papa and mama and more importantly what that means.  They need to know that our hugs and kisses are different than a "strangers" hug and kiss.

We got some wacky looks at church today, but their welfare is so much more important than that...

SO...if any of you reading this post are attenders at FBC...just bear with us as we do the best we can!  :-)

Blessed be the Name of the Lord!

Oh...having them in church with us this morning worked pretty well (after taking Micah out once to remind him who is in charge).  They snuggled in and were quiet.  The only thing was that when people clapped, Matthew thought it was hysterical so every time they stopped, you heard this loud, high pitched laughter.  Pretty cute!  :-)

Friday, May 1, 2009

The Boys Medical Situations...  

Here's where we are right now medically...

ELI

  • His blood counts remain high which indicate that he is, indeed, producing his own blood cells. PTL!
  • His thyroid checks out good and operational
  • His heart still sounds good
  • He can have his feeding tube removed whenever we want (it'll be soon)
  • He's back to his old self -- a HUGE blessing!!!
  • Still waiting on ENT appointment to see how his tubes are holding up
  • His tonsuls need to come out
MATTHEW
  • His heart is in great condition...no problems
  • His vision is within normal ranges
  • He needs to have minor eye surgery to fix his tear ducts on both sides and to remove the viral spots on his face and arms (yes, I know arms are not eye surgery...but it'll be the same procedure)
  • Needs tubes (the ENT doc said his ear canals were the smallest he had ever seen). His hearing is compromised due to the fluid and improper movement of the drums (which should be corrected with the tubes)
MICAH
  • Very poor vision but corrected with glasses
  • Needs his tonsuls out
  • Needs his adnoids out
  • Needs tubes
  • His heart is in good condition except some possible hypertension (but may have been an anomaly on the test. We'll just wait and see.
  • He has some definite mental/emotional/behavior issues we are working through but they are VERY MINOR and are corrected with proper discipline. He's just a little boy acting out because of his past. We're gonna love it all out of him! :-)
They are attaching very well. Matthew is less attached due to his developmental condition. Believe it or not we have the same attachment issues with Eli. Both Eli and Matthew love us and enjoy us...but we do ask ourselves the question if they would be just as happy with someone else and would they miss us. Hmmm...but we're working on it. :-) No worries. God's asked us to do our part, which we will continue to do, and He will take care of the rest. We are confident of that.

THERE'S ANOTHER NEW POST TODAY BELOW THIS ONE... :-) Can you believe it? 3 posts in 2 days!!!

Blessed be the Name of the Lord!

So Blessed...  

I'm finally posting about last Saturday!  

To back up a little bit...  When we were in Ukraine with the Loux's, they began to pray for God to provide people to come around us and help us as we added Matthew & Micah to our family.  When they told us that, I thought a couple of things...
1.  People have busy lives and won't have time to help us.
2.  I wouldn't be ASKING anyone to help us and unless they offered, it wouldn't happen.  (Ummm...Pride)
3.  I am independent and we can do this on our own.  (yeah...Pride.)

Well, as you know, the day we got back Eli had a serious medical condition and ended up in the hospital.  The first day we were home, I was home with all the kids except Eli, and I had double pneumonia.  God had me where He wanted me.  I needed help.  But I still wasn't going to ask.  No matter.  I got home from the hospital the first night only to find the house clean, laundry done and kids fed and in bed...  Thanks to a host of people who came over without me asking and they took charge and did what needed to be done.

They came back the next day and the next while Eli was in the hospital.  The food began coming too.  It was a very valuable lesson from God.

Fast forward a week and one of our dear friends, Randy Done was at our house helping (okay he did the work...I handed him tools) replace a back door.  He's also volunteered to help me turn our garage into a living room.  The week after we got home, our Singles Minister (another dear friend, Raymond Cox) said that the singles wanted to make us their project for their mission project (Mission:POSSIBLE) for April.  My initial reaction was "no way."  We can do it ourselves.  God reminded me that we are part of a body and two things would happen if we refused...  (1) The Malone's would have things that needed to be done that would take weeks or months to complete.  (2) We would be withholding the blessing from those who were answering God's call to help us.  (Remember, people had prayed that they would come along and help).  So I said yes and thank you.

In the meantime, another of our great friends, the Schloss's, said that we were going out Friday night and they were coming to sit with the kids.  I tried to talk them out of it and gave all the reasons that that might not be a good idea.  But they said they were coming...and we were going out.  Period.  So they did and we did and it was wonderful.  When we got home, they told us they wanted to do it once a month.  What a blessing.

On Saturday, the 25th, the singles showed up ready to work...  They...
  • Painted a large bedroom that all the little boys will move in to.
  • Painted the upstairs hall
  • Painted the upstairs bathroom
  • Repapered, cleaned and organized the kitchen cabinets
  • Cleaned out flowerbeds
  • Helped finish the play fort in the backyard
  • Cleaned
  • Took apart and moved beds around
What a blessing.  Words can't express our thankfullness.

Take a look at this video...


Blessed be the Name of the Lord!